Prayer
A Prayer for the Victims of Domestic Violence:
“Crowns”
Lord, you alone know what no one else knows;
You are beside me: Help me to remember you are there.
Oh Mary, I wore a crown of splendour, being chosen to be
Together, the bright sparkle of pleasure, dressing up
Looking to impress and to enjoy the other’s company,
Full of hope and the expectation of colourful days,
Small gifts, outings, cards and mutual helpfulness.
Lord, you alone know how being chosen, like a
Crowning, slips, little by little, on purpose or not?
Oh Mary, at first it seemed as if we upset each other and,
Bending the knee, as if apologies meant changes;
But then, like a circuit, we circle, wondering what
Will spark an outbreak, denting the crown a bit more,
Tilting it to slipping, wondering if we will lose it.
Lord, you alone know how a crown changes into a
Crown of thorns, the sharp ends upended and down.
Oh Mary, we are alone as our movements are tracked.
Our silence, bought by some unholy threat, is fragile,
As our every thought turns through the quagmire of
Escape, suicide, recapture, renewed torments, either
Verbal or worse, as the search for “out” goes “out”.
Lord, we hoped in change and change did not come,
Except that the thorns bit deeper and drew bloody tears.
Oh Mary, how slow we are to find the exit, as if its dark
And lightless, airless even, as we go about like dungeoned
Beasts, barely able to move unnoticed, but springing,
Like the new beginning we long for, at the opportunity
To suddenly go, begin again, get lost in a crowd and go
Lord, I know you are there, even if, at times I forget
You, for you came to make a home in me and stayed.
Oh Mary, St. Joseph, took the Holy Family to safety, take
Us, if we need to go, to a place out of reach, allowing healing-help
To come, bringing shelter from the blizzarding blasts of shame
Reproach, recrimination and withdrawal, hopelessly hoping
To forget what will not be forgotten but let forgiveness help.
Lord, I know you are both here and that you go ahead to
Where I cannot go alone, bring me the warmth of fellowship.
Oh Mary, visit the hearth of my heart, make it possible to love
Like you, in the darkness of faith, trusting in the mission of the
Church, seeking to succour us, and set a new crown upon our
Heads, signifying the enduring love that comes from you
And which will stay, night and endless day, blossoming life.
Lord, you sent your apostles into the world to seek out and
To heal illnesses, troubles and strife in all and in each of us.
Oh Mary, pass among us, opening doors and pointing the way,
Asking for our needs as you see them, inviting your Son and
His disciples to be present, to visit, to mend, to find a way to
Work together to do the good which needs to be done, undoing
The harm and transforming our experience into cutting edge help.
by Francis Etheridge, author of the now published!!!
Within Reach of You: A Book of Prose and Prayers:
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Resources
Book Reviews and Commentaries
No Visible Bruises: What We Don’t Know About Domestic Violence Can Kill Us by Rachel Louise Snyder Commentary by Caroline Fraser The New York Review of Books
Articles and Commentaries
Most Catholics in England say abuse crisis has weakened Church’s moral authority by Charles Collins Crux
The Supreme Court Upholds a Law Disarming Domestic Abusers by Mother Jones
South Asian groups work to break cultural, religious stigmas around domestic violence by Richa Karmarkar Religion News Service
Catholic psychologist asks synod delegates to tackle domestic violence by Elise Ann Allen Crux
Vinnies opens refuge for women escaping domestic violence by CathNews
Diocese’s domestic and family violence prevention programme praised by CathNews New Zealand
Police equip domestic abuse victims with safety alarms and motion detectors at home by Fiona Audley The Irish Post
US bishops ask Supreme Court to uphold gun ban on domestic abusers by CathNews
Why Domestic Violence and Abuse Victims and Survivors Deserve All Our Respect and Support by Dr. Emma Katz Decoding Coercive Control with Dr Emma Katz
Catholic organisations welcome plan to end domestic violence by CathNews
Ryan Giggs to face re-trial over domestic violence charges against ex-girlfriend by Matt Mathers Independent
Bishops condemn domestic violence in annual justice statement by Independent Catholic News
Australian Bishops highlight commitment to confronting abuse, domestic violence by Vatican News
EXCLUSIVE 'It's not my award, it's for the other survivors': Mel B reflects on her 'incredible' MBE after being honoured for services to domestic violence campaigning by Callum Wells Daily Mail
WMOF: ‘Domestic violence affects millions of Catholic families’ by Devon Watkins Vatican News
Couple aims to shed light on domestic violence in Catholic families by Elise Ann Allen Crux
Police: Adreian Payne killed intervening in domestic dispute; alleged shooter pleads not guilty by Jason Owens Yahoo Sports
Forgiveness and Accountability: Looking at the John MacArthur Scandal by Connor Brennan Patheos
Dr Wilcox expresses ‘deep shame’ that former priest in his diocese abused woman for nearly ten years by PaulWilkinsonChurch Times
Former MLB player Milton Bradley accused of domestic violence, threatened to kill her wife by Marca
Congress votes to renew landmark domestic violence law by Farnoush Amiri The Associated Press
Father Jacques Hamel murder: Catholic archbishop says ‘justice is done’ as 4 are convicted by Hannah Brockhaus Catholic News Agency
Runnymede domestic abuse victim 'like a sitting duck' as she waits to be rehomed by Steven White Surrey Live
The Irish Times view on domestic violence: zero tolerance would be a start by Irish Times
Lifting obstacles: France helps women report abuse to police by Masha Macpherson and Sylvie Corbet The Associated Press
Irish Bishop: The deeper pandemic of domestic abuse in lockdown by Vatican News
Shining a light on the issue of domestic violence by Michelle Martin Chicago Catholic
Wife of Trump-Backed Senate Candidate Sean Parnell Claims He Strangled Her, Beat Their Children by Althea Legaspi Rolling Stone/Microsoft News
Wichita's domestic abuse epidemic inspires call for municipal court to reform offender interventions by Pilar Pedraza and Tim Carpenter KAKE
I am a domestic abuse survivor. Parish priests must do more to support people like me by Constance Phelps National Catholic Reporter
French push against domestic abuse may overlook some police by Arno Pedram The Associated Press
Domestic violence victims need 'safe place to go' by CathNews
Breaking the silence: Clergy address pandemic’s surge in domestic violence by Katie Givens Kime Religion News Service
Domestic abuse surged under COVID-19. Clergy need better tools to help survivors. by Donna Kirshbaum Religion News Service
Masses to mark Domestic Violence Remembrance Day by CathNews
Sheriff: 4 dead in Houston domestic violence shooting by Associated Press
Thailand sees surge in domestic violence during pandemic Activists attribute spike in cases to increased alcohol, drug use as Covid-19 batters economy by UCA News reporter UCA News
'Code of silence' allows domestic abuse to go unchallenged, bishop says by Colleen Rowan Angelus
Domestic violence all the rage in Philippine lockdown. Pandemic has brought a sharp rise in abuses against Filipino women by their partners. by Joseph Peter Calleja UCA News
Catholics urged to learn signs of domestic abuse by Simon Caldwell The Tablet
National Women’s Board releases domestic abuse resource for UK by Sr Bernadette Mary Reis, fsp Vatican News
Public Service Announcement to (Especially Catholic) Priests, Nuns, Social Workers, Therapists, and Lay People by Marie Kopp Patheos
Broken Glass: When Domestic Violence Ends in Murder by Guest Contributor Patheos
Coronavirus and Domestic Violence: What You Should Know by Jackie Campbell, Ph.D., R.N. Johns Hopkins Medicine
Catholic psychologist calls domestic violence ‘pandemic within a pandemic’ by Gina Christian Catholic News Service/Crux
A 'slaughter them' policy that targets the Philippines poor by Al Jazeera
African church leaders work to curb domestic abuse during lockdown by Fredrick Nzwili Catholic News Service/Angelus
Q&A: Violence against women during COVID-19 by United Nations
Bishops ask parishes to help domestic abuse victims amid lockdown by CNA Daily News/The Catholic World Report
NBCW welcomes bishop's statement on domestic abuse by Independent Catholic News
India's lockdown brings spike in domestic abuse by Bijay Kumar Minj UCANews.com
From Survivor to Community Influencer: The Story of Bibi Anisa by Corinne Brodeur International Catholic Migration Commission
Domestic violence and human trafficking among issues Anglican women take to UN by Staff Writer Anglican Communion News Service
Parishes: Let's stop ignoring domestic violence by Father Charles W. Dahm, O.P.. U.S. Catholic
Donald Trump, a Racist, Sends Awful Tweet About MLK Jr. Day by Ben Dreyfuss Mother Jones
Violence, Gaslighting and Flying Monkeys: How Abusers Manipulate their Communities by Mary Pezzulo Patheos
Shelter in Bolivia empowers young female victims of abuse by Giovana Soria Crux
Absolute Faith: How Phil Turned His Own Pain Into Helping Domestic Abuse Survivors by Beth Simkantin Catholic Diocese of Memphis
Pope Francis condemns ‘shameful ill-treatment’ of women 'Marking the Day for Life in England and Wales, dedicated this year to domestic abuse, Pope Francis issues an appeal to fight all forms of exploitation. by Linda Bordoni Vatican News
The Church's crucial role in responding to domestic violence by R.W. Dellinger Angelus
Parish ministries working to end domestic violence by Michelle Martin ChicagoCatholic
8 Ways Catholics May Enable Domestic Abuse by Melinda Selmys Patheos
After fatal shooting in parking lot, church responds in prayer, action by James Ramos Catholic News Service/CatholicPhilly
‘It’s a man’s problem’: Patrick Stewart and the men fighting to end domestic violence by Anna Moore The Guardian
The 16 Days of Activism by The Revd Canon Terrie Robinson Anglican Communion News Service
Anglican Church of Australia to research domestic violence in Anglican-affiliated families by Anglican Communion News Service
Holy See urges fight against violence, discrimination against women by Robin Gomes Vatican News. Herald Malaysia Onlin
Domestic violence shapes Colombian women's partner choices. Borras-Guevara ML, Batres C, Perrett DI. Behav Ecol Sociobiol.
Parishes: Let's stop ignoring domestic violence by Father Charles W. Dahm, O.P. US Catholic
Domestic abuse: the epidemic no one is talking about in parishes by Matt Hadro. Catholic News Agency
Parishes aren't talking about the epidemic of domestic abuse. by Matt Hadro CNS
Catholic University of America releases toolkit to fight domestic violence by CNA/EWTN News
You probably know someone who's been domestically abused. by Matt Hadro. Catholic News Agency
Domestic Violence, Catholic Realities, and Immigrant Latinos by Julia L. Perilla, PhD Faith Trust Institute
Domestic Violence and Abuse in Catholic Marriages by Laura Kazlas A Cathol;ic Moment
When I Call for Help: A Pastoral Response to Domestic Violence Against Women by USCCB
Trump administration moves to block victims of gang violence and domestic abuse from claiming asylum by Evan Halper Los
Mock Border Wall; Domestic violence victims seeking asylum by Maria Benevento National Catholic Reporter
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